If you’re a parent, chances are you’ve felt like this. Felt like the world’s biggest failure, that you have no idea what you’re doing, that you’re just not cut out for this. Those moments when your toddler just won’t calm down, he’s totally amped and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. You leave for a family function that’s one hour away and pray that he falls asleep on the way, because that’ll be his only opportunity for a nap and if he doesn’t take said nap, your time at the family function will be miserable. Or, your 6 month old baby only sleeps for 20 minutes at a time, three times a day and is losing his mind because he’s exhausted and you can’t figure out how to make him happy. He finally falls asleep in the car and the toddler insists on singing, talking, playing, screaming (screams of joy of course) at the loudest possible volume during the entire ride….. Too specific? Yes, these are my kids. If you’re a parent, I’m sure you have similar stories.
The good news is, that these moments pass. We realize that we can’t completely control our little humans because they have their own individual, special, crazy and wonderful personalities. The good news is that being a good parent doesn’t mean that we have to have perfect kids. We’re all human and sinners. We all need Jesus and His redemption. Even our kids. God doesn’t expect perfection from me, I shouldn’t expect it from my kids. When I have that feeling that I’m not cut out for this, I try to remember that everyone has these kinds of moments. I try to remember that if I didn’t have those super difficult moments or days, I wouldn’t appreciate the incredible moments as much. The moments when I feel like I must be doing something right. When my 10 year old voluntarily does the dishes or my 8 year old brings the trash cans down from the street without me asking. Even the toddler, when he’s dancing around the living room, completely full of joy without a care in the world, because he lives in a happy, secure, safe, loving home. Or when I realize that the baby isn’t tired, he just wants to sit in my lap and watch me make silly faces at him. Those sweet smiles of his sure do melt my heart!
Yes, parenting is difficult. Good parenting is even harder. It’s incredibly difficult to always be ”on”, to always be consistent, to always follow through with what you say you’re going to do. It’s hard to live through crying babies, tantrums, fighting siblings and argumentative tweens. The crazy moments will always be there. But, the good moments, and the really good moments will always be there too. Every time, the good will outweigh the bad.